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...this was a great read.....I too love that quote...

2011-02-14T20:25:20.369-06:00

...this was a great read.....I too love that quote and have used it as an explanation to my serial single living.....and now to my serial loving life.....always in progress. Thanks for the great read and reminder!

I'm late to this party, but this is one of the...

2010-06-11T18:12:44.208-05:00

I'm late to this party, but this is one of the most beautiful (and important) things I've read in a long, long time.

Thank you for the reminder.

Another wonderful post I am able to learn so much ...

2010-05-13T23:17:01.850-05:00

Another wonderful post I am able to learn so much from. Your passion and honesty never ceases to grip and pull me along for the ride through your words. Thank you.

A sweet and sincere reminder that I think we can a...

2010-05-13T21:30:58.621-05:00

A sweet and sincere reminder that I think we can all use every once in a while. Thank you.

This was such a beautiful post. I love how you sai...

2010-05-13T18:08:45.024-05:00

This was such a beautiful post. I love how you said so much in just a few paragraphs. Got me all teary and shiz.

I love you so much. This post is perfection. And s...

2010-05-13T17:27:23.422-05:00

I love you so much. This post is perfection. And so are you, my dear.

That's like the bestest quote about love ever....

2010-05-13T13:50:34.912-05:00

That's like the bestest quote about love ever. I think it applies perfectly to any meaningful relationship, not just marriage. And I think that's what we all spend so much of our lives searching for. Someone to be our witness, someone who gets it, someone who will notice and care.

Love you.

That is one of my favorite quotes from a movie - b...

2010-05-13T13:40:19.460-05:00

That is one of my favorite quotes from a movie - but no one has ever seen the movie to know what the heck I am talking about!!! I'm so happy you have! :) You are one of the biggest witnesses to my life and I appreciate it.

You're not going to like this, and I still lov...

2010-05-09T17:35:19.970-05:00

You're not going to like this, and I still love you, but I couldn't disagree more. It might not be my life, but it's not the expectant mother's life, either. The life is that of the unborn child's, alone. The gift of free will, choice, does not supercede the gift of life. The burden lies with those among us who can, to stand up for those who cannot.

-dustin

Your comments of the leper-like status of girls co...

2010-05-05T18:25:16.627-05:00

Your comments of the leper-like status of girls convinced to continue their pregnancies, and neglect of children is exactly why I support the right to choose! You, however, state it a LOT more eloquently than I could!

I think our topics go very well together, especial...

2010-05-05T14:26:45.419-05:00

I think our topics go very well together, especially the emphasis on choice.

When I first realized that I was free to choose and allowed to be informed about my own body and sexuality, I felt alive. That may sound strange, but I really did feel like my body was finally my own, not for someone else's design or purpose. I could move and breath and celebrate who I was without limitations or expectations.

I swear my head exploded when I realized that it was ludicrous for the government to decide what I could and could not do with my body. If only our legislating bodies truly believed in choice of all people, regardless of religion, culture, or sex.

"I learned that if you post stupid things you...

2010-04-30T13:36:19.879-05:00

"I learned that if you post stupid things you do on facebook, you will receive the most comments of anything you ever post" - and on the blog, too!!

You know that I love you (and your ass) dearly. B...

2010-04-14T09:50:09.206-05:00

You know that I love you (and your ass) dearly. But I'm still trying to figure out what "TWSH" means...

I needed to read this. Thank you!

2010-04-10T09:34:30.786-05:00

I needed to read this. Thank you!

"Do NOT read beauty magazines, they will only...

2010-04-10T01:45:24.619-05:00

"Do NOT read beauty magazines, they will only make you feel ugly... but trust me on the sunscreen."

-Baz Luhrmann

@Brittney, I couldn't agree more. Support syst...

2010-04-09T16:17:19.433-05:00

@Brittney, I couldn't agree more. Support systems ARE all they are cracked up to be. I didn't even know much about it and now I plan to buy as much Dove in place of other products as I can!

@Sketch, Oh how I wish I could have been there to see that. I promise this was not about you, or anyone in particular, and mostly it was about me. I think we know the source of your insecurity right now and though I'd like to rack him in the balls, that won't help anyone. You have an amazing journey ahead of you my dear! Great friends, and people no longer accepting the outside view as the best representation of who someone is...will make this little world a MUCH better place.

i read this and had a variety of emotional reactio...

2010-04-09T15:48:32.902-05:00

i read this and had a variety of emotional reactions.
My first one was "Right on SISTAH!" I might have done a desk fist pump and raised a middle finger at the people magazine in front of me.
My second was was "Uh oh, she's totally talking about me" Yeah, I know it. I'm one of those girls that has a badly damaged self perception. BADLY DAMAGED. I hate hearing myself complain about my weight and attractiveness. I do not do it to get attention or praise, I genuinely feel not-so-hot bad about myself. I've never felt this low about my appearance in my entire life and I'm not sure what to do it about. Ironic that I felt better about my body at 250lbs. Irony is a bitch.
Anyway, I am really going to try to take control of loving myself. I'm also going to be there to make sure you feel completely loved! Your call to lead the charge is inspiring, and although difficult, I too think it's absolutely necessary.
We can do this, we really can. I'm breaking up too! "All the single ladies, all the single ladies!" (when I typed/sang that I thought of your fabulous booty dance. You have some killer moves woman!
In the same spirit Jessica Simpson (although I can't stand her) is appearing in Marie Claire sans makeup and airbrushing.

Awesome! Its nice to know you're not alone in ...

2010-04-09T13:44:20.910-05:00

Awesome! Its nice to know you're not alone in the world. I LOVE what Dove is doing :)

Where do I begin? Kudos to you for having the cou...

2010-04-08T15:03:18.889-05:00

Where do I begin?
Kudos to you for having the courage to post this. Any talk about my weight is a voodoo subject and to just put it all out there is inspiring.
I know that the only way I am going to see myself as beautiful, is not through any mirror, but on the inside. I'm working on it, and as corny as it sounds, there is a light at the end of this tunnel.
I hope you know, you are not alone, but one amongst many who feel the same way.
I think you are beautiful, inside and out. And I am so proud of you for shining light on such a sensitive subject.

The only way we're all going to win this game ...

2010-04-08T08:51:21.263-05:00

The only way we're all going to win this game is TOGETHER.

And win it we will.

Beautiful post, lady.

As unfortunate as it is, the struggle to accept th...

2010-04-08T06:22:03.996-05:00

As unfortunate as it is, the struggle to accept the way my body is never goes away. I know I'm skinny and petite, and I know that my athletic thighs will never look like twigs, but I still can't help criticizing those strong thighs when I look in the mirror. I can only hope that we get to a point some day where we celebrate how beautiful we look.

So, I read your post... and cried. And then I rea...

2010-04-07T21:21:18.679-05:00

So, I read your post... and cried. And then I read the comments... and I cried again.

I just wanted to thank you for putting it out there. Maybe now I'll be able to break my own cycle of self criticism. Maybe now we'll all be able to break the cycles of criticism.

I love you. And you're beautiful!

as the man in the relationship that April spoke of...

2010-04-07T15:50:35.308-05:00

as the man in the relationship that April spoke of, I can tell anyone reading that she is not, in fact, fat. she's not big. she's not large.. she's not even medium. what she is, however, is beautiful, hot, even. inside and out. especially inside, but for the sake of this particular post, we'll stick to the out. April is a deceptively graceful and childlike beauty, who tempers innocence with guile. like a moving work of art, she goes about her everyday, never realizing how appealing she really is. seriously, you should see her on a sheet of ice. or on other sheets, for that matter.. let me tell you, fellas, you're missing out. of course, you'd have to make her laugh, first.. making her laugh is key.

April, in front of the whole world, for all of them to see.. you are truly beautiful. you are covered with the fingerprints of God, an unrepeatable spectacle of soft and quiet wonder. you are my scarecrow.. I miss you, most of all.

-dustin

I think this is a wonderful blog. You're addre...

2010-04-07T15:35:40.470-05:00

I think this is a wonderful blog. You're addressing an issue that effects all women. Your mother is a perfect example of all women having a body issue with their size no matter what they actually weigh. I once dated a guy who told me I was the "fat" girlfriend compared to his past girlfriends. My response was to lose weight until all the bones in my body stuck out like knives. Looking back I should've stabbed him with a rib. As the years go by there are still things I am highly unhappy with, but I decide to see my body for what I like about it. I love my legs (up to the knees) I have boobs, and I have small wrists focusing on that takes MY attention off of my ass that I can't even look at in the mirror.

I love you. This is exactly why you need to post o...

2010-04-07T15:08:12.595-05:00

I love you. This is exactly why you need to post on a regular basis. This is such a tough issue for most women (I'd even dare to say all, actually), and I can't think of a better person to write about it. Your wonderful, heart-felt style completely does justice to the delicacy of this topic. I can't even express the reaction I have to this post (and all the honest, heart-breaking responses posted by the girls), but suffice to say I won't stop thinking about your words (or theirs) any time soon.